“All my life, I always wanted to be somebody.
Now I see that I should have been more specific.”— Jane Wagner, writer and director
Lots of girls around the world are raised with the idea in mind that being a princess is a good thing. As our family demonstrated on Sunday, perhaps being a cake princess isn’t such a good idea. We demolished this cake in a few short minutes and the princess was no more.
When we grow up, we are all somebody. Often, sadly, we are not the somebody we had in mind. So we go from one career to another, one job to another, one location to another and sometimes one relationship to another trying to be the somebody we wanted to grow up to be.
The secret to growing up to be what you want to be is to be specific about that desire. Being somebody is not enough; being the somebody you wanted to be often leads to a life of happiness and fulfillment. Sometimes along the way we may change our mind and alter our course in life to re-create ourselves but if we do intentionally we come to the end of our life satisfied with the life we created.
Every person I’ve ever know who comes to the end of their life satisfied is someone who has lived the life they intended to live on their terms. That doesn’t mean it was easy or that it just happened to them. Quite the opposite in fact. These people lived the life they intended by creating that life and putting in all the work required to be the person they wanted to be.
The first step is to know what you want and be specific about what you want in life. The second step is to learn what the steps are to get what you want in life. The third step is to get busy with the work, the process of creating the life you want.