Be like a postage stamp.
Stick to one thing until you get there.
– Josh Billings
Katy is an amazing little girl. She inspires me daily with her courage and her brains and her energy. She always wants to be doing something, always is willing to learn and never, ever backs off from something she doesn’t know how to do or that may be a little scary to do. Yesterday, she did all the work of making pie dough from scratch. Pie dough isn’t difficult to make but it is hard to make. The hard part is doing every single step in the right order and putting in a lot of elbow grease. For example this much pie dough takes about 1/4 cup of ice-cold water. If you put that in the bowl first you will never have pie dough. You will just have a mess.
One of the greatest discoveries a man makes,
one of his great surprises,
is to find he can do
what he was afraid he couldn’t.
– Henry Ford
Now Katy did not have any fear she couldn’t make that pie dough. Why? She knew she didn’t have to know how because I was there to teach her how. She also knew that if it was too hard I would help her out. Yesterday, when teaching her how to make pie dough, I realized my style of teaching how to do something has changed since I’ve been a life coach. I demonstrated what needed to be done, but other than watching out to be sure she didn’t cut off her thumb (which was a real possibility) I let her go do it. Then there came a point when I knew she was making her job harder than necessary. So instead of telling her what to do I asked a question: “Do you think it will be easier to mash that hard cold butter into the flour if it is a big piece or if it is a little piece.” She said, “I know what to do” and she did it–she started cutting the pieces smaller! THAT is coaching.
Dreams come true;
without that possibility,
nature would not incite us to have them.
– John Updike
Now Katy didn’t have a dream to make pie dough. However, when I asked her if she would like to make pie dough for the quiches she jumped up, clapped her hands and said, “Yes!” Now although this wasn’t a dream she really wanted to do it. She really wanted to make pie dough and then make quiches. She was willing to do the hard work that it took to make it happen. That is the other side of dreams. Dreaming is NOT enough. You have to work to make the dream possible and work to make it come true. But because you are working toward a dream it no longer feels like work. It doesn’t exactly feel like play but I’ve long thought play is NOT the opposite of work–but I’ll save that thought for another time. She worked hard because she was working toward a goal that she wanted!
To achieve the impossible,
it is precisely the unthinkable that must be thought.
– Tom Robbins
Now, I’m pretty sure most of you would not have asked a five-year old girl to make pie dough from scratch and turn that pie dough into 80 mini quiches. I would not ask this of most five-year old girls either. But, I know Katy and know she loves to learn and really enjoys working too. So a five-year old girl was able to learn and do what many adults have not learned or done. It might have been unthinkable or seemed impossible but because she really wanted to do it, the task became thinkable and possible.
Think the impossible thing
and create the life you want!
Coaching can help.