Your Inner Critic


“There is nothing either good or bad,
but thinking makes it so.” ~William Shakespeare

“We’ll never survive!” 
“Nonsense. You’re only saying that because no one ever has.” 
― William GoldmanThe Princess Bride

It is a hard thing to silence our inner critic.  I remember several times when I was in counseling with various psychiatrists, psychologists and social workers being told, “You don’t really want to succeed.”  Now that I’m a bit older and a lot happier I know what they said is garbage.  Of course I wanted to succeed!  No one wants to fail. What I now know they were trying to say is “there is a wee small voice deep inside you telling you success is impossible for you.”

That wee small voice was my Inner Critic.  Getting that voice to be quiet and stay out of my way has not been easy.  So I was able to get the Inner Critic to quiet down and quit blocking my path (not that it didn’t try!) with a few exercises that sound easy but sometimes are very hard.

1.  I practiced imagining what my success would look like.
2. I reassured myself that if I did the right things, in the right way, for the right reasons that everything would be OK.
3. I looked around me at the people who loved me and depended on me and told myself, “If they think I can, then I can.”
4. I created my own realities and lived with those realities in love and honor of my best, least critical self.

There is no guarantee in life and sometimes my Inner Critic throws a tantrum and I have to tamp it down a bit and build myself up again.  I have learned through it all, I can do more with my life than my Inner Critic would have me believe.  So can you.

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